Is it about time our instincts left us and just allowed us to act with our lives using our conscious mind? Okay I can see certain instincts should remain like the one for preserving your own life, reaction and reflex all that jazz. I can't help but think is 'the instinct to get a partner' is still needed. Society it self promotes that we should all be with someone. I would just love to be happy while alone. I would end up with someone truly special if I then decided I wanted to share a life with someone. I think over half of relationships in the world happened because two people didn't want to be alone and they just happened to be the best on offer at the current time. At least that's how I feel sometimes. I feel that a girl wants to be with me because I'm decent and interested in her. But when things start to get tough like all relationships do they can't seem to cope and just give up. Yeah I guess I can be a handful at times but I'm not that complicated. I even tell the girl what I want her to do to solve the problem then you compromise and issue is resolved.
sometimes I feel like girls have became more selfish. Which is great, nothing better than keeping a man on his toes. But you girls haven't quiet figured out the right balance yet. Neither have most guys I admit but relationships need balance. I've said it before, I'm saying it again. It just feels like all the girls I have been with for the last... Say 3 years give or take a few exceptions have only wanted me in there own time. Now that bothers me because it makes me feel like a tool. I'm not saying I want the girl to drop everything for me. What I'm saying is its nice to have a feeling in the back of your head that your partner can drop everything for you when times become most dire, do things to make you feel comfortable even though its really shit for them. Like stay up later than usual. I can remember an ex of mine would wake up the same time as me when I had an early start. She would sign on msn and speak to me while I get ready for work and then go sleep when I leave. How sweet is that!?
I think its the small things in a relationship that can keep people together and its the big things you do to express to a person that you love them. Its very annoying when people are selfish because it makes you selfish and inconsiderate if you aint getting what you need or want out of the relationship. Responding like that isn't a bad thing at all! I want someone that will answer their phone when I call them. That turns up when they say they will. Enjoys sex as much as me and will give me an excessive amount of blow jobs. Someone that will listen while I rant. Someone that knows sometimes I don't know why I'm upset and want to cuddle me until I'm fine. there's still a few more things that I like in my relationships but that's just a few. If I don't get these qualities then I'm not happy and I will give them their chances but will eventually leave them. 'what? That's so harsh Simon!? You would leave a girl if she won't give you excessive head?' Yes I would because if I don't leave her then that means I'm spending the rest of my fucking life not getting something that I want and since I have an entire lifetime to find that I'll take my precious time finding this perfect girl for me! Just need to hope I'm the perfect guy for her and if I'm not.. I'll happily change myself to suit her.
Now what annoys me is I wish I could remain single to find this girl so I am ready for when she shows up. But she will more than likely be taken herself. We will be taken because our instincts can overpower our judgement and people settle for people who will just do. Then they can't find the will power to leave them no matter how much they hate it. They pretend everything is fine until someone better suited shows up and shows interest and then its goodbye current partner hello new one and this poor person that just had to endure an entire relationship that they thought was fine because they got lied to!
This is all because life is less shit when your with someone. Many reasons for that. First one is you feel loved and important. The second would be the sex. Sex releases a lot of endorphins which aids with stress relieve. If your ever mad at each other, just have sex with eachother. You will get over it afterwards. Infact it is the sex that makes the whole relationship tolerable. Its an important thing so keep that in mind and if you want to keep your partner keep them satisfied. Sex is just like a drug, you can get addicted to the natural endorphins that it releases and for someone who feels stressed constantly its nice to get a fix.
So what am I even blogging about? Well it seems most people who are currently in relationships are in them for the wrong reasons. This is all because no one wants to be alone and we all want company. This does not justify leading someone on in this most horrible way possible, they might be serious. Think long and hard about why are in a relationship and if you don't have good enough reasons or have doubts about it working in the long run, end it. More people are out there. More people who are better suited for you. You shouldn't wait in a relationship till these people show up. You should be single and available, make it easy for them to take you away to happiness that you thought you could never gain. When you get that, keep hold of them and treasure them for as long as you can. If you disagree with me. Imagine falling for the person of your dreams and it ends up with them being with you until something better shows up. You might be giving that feeling to the person you are with now.
I hope you enjoyed this read. Please feel free to comment because I like knowing what people think and I like knowing people read this. Its you guys that read this which keep me writing. If you have any issues that you need advice with please ask me and I will do my best to advise you. Thank you.
I honestly don't believe anyone knows what they want (including you, me, everyone else) and it takes good luck to find someone you can actually be with. I imagine it's also fairly intimidating to enter a new relationship and find a list of things you have to comply with in order to be with someone. Real life isn't really as neat as all that. You give someone a list, they'll run for the hills. I suppose what I'm saying is that expecting a relationship to turn out a certain way is unrealistic, because people are so different, and yet so horribly alike. Going into a relationship with those expectations isn't really fair on the other person, because chances are, they don't have any set expectations themselves, but rather just go with it until they find out what works and what doesn't.
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