Just been sat here smoking, listening to some trance music and then suddenly something came into my head. Something that is still happening now but it was more obvious when in school and can be seen through Facebook as well. I give them the name 'Relationship Jumpers' This mainly effects girls but I've seen it done with guys too. I can't understand it. I would like it if someone could explain this too me over a drink because I hate the concept.
I understand the outside look on it. I'm going to be sexiest and base this on a girl because it mainly effects girls. Girl has BF, either gets dumped or dumps the BF and has someone new within a week. This happens through out her entire dating life. I can't understand how this is even possible? I mean one you can't possibly be over your old boyfriend and your transferring some extra baggage, though guys can tolerate that to a point. Two how to you find someone compatible so fast? I've spent years finding someone compatible for me, usually when I do something happens to mess it up. Do you people seriously find happiness through being with someone your not compatible with or are you just damn lucky? Do you have something in your brain that has the capability to state 'oh you'll do' or are you just afraid of being alone so much that you even know and accept that the relationship is temporarily ?
You know when I get hit down hard after a relationship I do go out and look something new for an ego boost. Just to meet someone who likes me and wants to kiss me. I'm generally happy with that and then I continue with my single life since it seems my taste in relationship qualities are varied and hold no pattern what so ever. I also have the mindset that if I enter a relationship its because I want it to last and of course everyone needs certain elements in a relationship early on to help it push through to the later area's of it. On top of that if I'm not happy with a relationship I'm generally open about it and mention it. Then if I see no improvement I end it.
What I want to know is. Are these relationship jumpers really happy in their relationship or are they lying to themselves? Are they staying in the relationship for the sake of not being alone regardless of how bad it is or do they really find happiness through being with anyone. I envy this ability because I really hate being alone but I also hate being in a relationship I don't want to be in.
Any kind of insight onto this subject would be great because I can interested in what people think or if you are a relationship jumper I'm interested in what you know. I what I do know already though is the relationships of the relationship jumper never last purely because you can't land on the right person by chance and if you do then I'm extremely jealous. I also feel that I have been subject to relationship jumpers from entering relationships with girls on a surprisingly easy scale but never ever do they get passed the tough part as previously mention in an older blog.
Well thank you for reading. If you can add anything to this blog yourselves or answer some questions then please do. I look forward to hearing what you have to say about it. Thank you.
Erm, tad late on this, but honestly, I just think they're too shallow and lacking emotional depth to even care enough about anyone else to think about whether or not they're compatible.
ReplyDeleteI think it's really just hopping from one person to the next because that's what they're pretty enough to pull it off, and they don't really care as long as they're fucking someone.
Just my opinion, of course.